Why You Can’t Get Over Your Ex ?

Get Over Your Ex

According to attachment theory, first developed by psychologist Mary Ainsworth and psychiatrist John Bowlby in the 1950s, a person’s attachment style is shaped in early childhood in response to their relationships with caregivers.

Attachment style influences how we respond emotionally to others and interact in relationships.

The Four Attachment Styles

1. Secure Attachment

   • Able to trust and be trusted, comfortable with intimacy.
   • Balances dependence and independence in relationships.

2. Anxious Attachment

   • Craves intimacy but can be overly dependent and demanding.
   • Insecure about relationships, seeks constant validation.

3. Avoidant Attachment

   • Values independence, may seem emotionally unavailable.
   • Maintains distance in relationships, prefers self-reliance.

4. Fearful-Avoidant Attachment

   • Desire for closeness but fears vulnerability.
   • Combines traits of anxious and avoidant styles.

Characteristics of Fearful-Avoidant Attachment:

• Difficulty opening up, trusting others, and regulating emotions.
• Negative views of self and others, may withdraw in intimacy.

Factors Influencing Fearful-Avoidant Attachment:

• Childhood abuse, fear of caregivers, unstable environments.

Ways to Heal Attachment Issues

1. Learn about attachment styles.
2. Identify your attachment style.
3. Establish boundaries and expectations.
4. Communicate with your partner.
5. Seek therapy.
6. Focus on mental health.
7. Journal your thoughts.
8. Address emotional healing.
9. Connect with your inner child.
10. Maintain positivity and consistency.